"Teens Should Be Perfect"

The development of positive self-esteem during the teenage years can translate into success in adulthood. Many teenagers face obstacles in reaching that point, however, in the form of peer pressure and other problems. Since many teenagers are reluctant to seek help or talk to their parents, knowing some of the typical self-esteem blockers can assist parents in helping their their teenager reach his potential.

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   Appearance or Body Image

   • Your teenager's body is changing and developing at a rapid pace. With these changes comes confusion, questions and concerns. Add to that media images bombarding your teenager with how she should look and act, and many teenagers are insecure about their looks. Many teenagers become concerned about their body and appearance during this time anyway, and those who feel they don't measure up to media or peer standards can become depressed and moody. Some teens may binge or go on crash diets to try to change the way they look. Other teens may experiment with different hair, makeup and clothing styles to deal with their feelings.

   Peer Pressure

   • Your child's peers have a huge influence over her during these impressionable years. If your teenager feels she will be ostracized or made fun of for a particular behavior or asset, she can become self-conscious. During this time period in your child's life, relationships changes and other teenagers can be cruel and hurtful. If your child is the target of verbal or physical bullying, she may experience a serious blow to her self-esteem.

   Parental Expectations

   • Parents want their children to succeed. However, you may be placing extreme pressure on your teenager to be successful, and this may cause her to feel upset with herself if she cannot meet your expectations. Comparisons between siblings can have a similar effect. Your teenager may receive similar pressure from school teachers or other important people in her life. Watch for agitation, depression or becoming withdrawn from favorite activities, which could indicate your teenager is struggling.

   Abuse or Neglect

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     Teenagers who suffer from abuse or neglect, whether at the hands of a parent, peer or significant other, are bound to develop self-esteem issues. Many teenagers will blame themselves for the abuse occurring, leading to self-deprecation, depression and anxiety issues. Teenagers may be reluctant to disclose the abuse for fear of retaliation or rejection by others. This can lead to isolation, further complicating your teenager's already fragile self-esteem.

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